Episode 30: Paying for Sex

Chris chats with 6 men who, collectively, have purchased sexual services well over 100 times. Topics discussed include buying and using drugs (mostly cocaine) with sex workers, seeing porn stars, sex tourism (mostly to Columbia and Thailand), and the sugar lifestyle/seekingarrangements.com.

Articles referenced in this episode include Salon's "How risky is Oral Sex?," and CNN's cheery "Yes, Oral Sex Can Lead to Cancer."

Duration: 1 hour, 6 minutes

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Episode 29: Valentine's Day in Amsterdam's Main Red Light District

Chris travels to Amsterdam to chat with couples and sex workers spending Valentine's Day in De Wallen, the world's most famous red light district. Chris is joined in this episode by listener Taylor Hernowitz, who helped Chris interview women working in window brothels and couples exploring voyeurism at the Sex Palace Peep Show. This episode also features representatives from a number of organizations dedicated to improving the lives of people working in the sex industry, including PROUD the official union of sex workers in the Netherlands, the Red Umbrella Fund, which supplies grants to sex worker-led organizations around the globe and is headquartered in Amsterdam, and the Prostitution Information Center located in the heart of De Wallen.

Don't forget to check out the CNN article mentioned on the show: Dutch Driving Instructors Can Trade Lessons for Sex. You can find the episode of Reply All Chris referenced here. And the three episodes of Jess' podcast that are available in English are A Dutch Sex Worker, A Poly Family, and Conscious Kink. Don't let the Chinese intros for these episodes fool you; the interviews are in English.

The original upload of this episode had a technical glitch that created audio gaps when played on certain speakers. That has been fixed. If you have any issues, please delete the file and download it again. If troubles persist, download or stream this episode here at sexwithstrangersshow.com. We apologize for the inconvenience.

Duration: 1 hour, 37 minutes

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Episode 28: The War on Porn

Chris chats with porn performers Chanel Preston and Mickey Mod about the current state of the porn industry, why they oppose condom mandates like Proposition 60, and their work with the Adult Performer Advocacy Committee (APAC). Michael Stabile from Kink.com joins the discussion to talk about the rise of anti-porn forces within US politics and corporate America. Jerry Barnett, the free speech activist and author of Porn Panic: Sex and Censorship in the UK, helps us understand what's happening across the pond. And it's not encouraging! British porn sensation Harriet Sugarcookie and her business partner Tommie round out this episode by sharing their thoughts on censorship, their unique approach to making pornography, and the healing power of harrietsugarcookie.com.

Check out the official position of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) on sex/porn addiction here, and a similar statement from The Mormon Mental Health Association mentioned on the show here.

Correction: Chris mistakenly refers to this show as "episode 29" when it is in fact episode 28.

Duration: 1 hour, 12 minutes

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Episode 27: Sex, Food, and Intentional Weight Gain

Chris chats with people in the feederism (sometimes also called feedism) fetish community. All 4 featured guests get off on gaining weight as well as encouraging others to pack on pounds. Two of these guests also work as professional fetish models. You can find out more about Kimmy Crush at BBWSurf.com, and Lily’s site is through bigcuties.com. The True Life episode mentioned at the end of this episode “I Have a Feeding Fetish” is currently available on Youtube.

Duration: 1 hour

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Episode 26: Fighting the Trafficking Narrative from Alaska to Rhode Island

Mainstream discussions of the sex industry have mostly revolved around human trafficking. In this episode we explore why that narrative is misleading and harmful. The interviews featured here were recorded in Nebraska, Rhode Island, Alaska, California, and Illinois. Guests include Terra Burns (Community United for Safety and Protection), Maxine Doogan (the Erotic Service Providers Legal, Educational and Research Project), Bella Robinson (COYOTE RI), Monica Peterson and Rex Hamaker (University of Denver's Human Trafficking Center), Hannah Marshall (Brown University), and Erin Black (The Sexual A-Team).

Articles discussed in this episode include The Banks' War on Porn Stars by Richard Abowitz and Marlow Stern, The Case for Decriminalizing Prostitution by German Lopez, Washington Post fact checker Glenn Kessler's Why You Should be Wary About Statistics on 'Modern Slavery' and 'Trafficking' and The Biggest Pinocchios of 2015, Should Prostitution be a Crime? by Emily Bazelon. Also check out Bazelon's follow-up concerning Amnesty International's Policy on State Obligations to Respect, Protect and Fulfil the Human Rights of Sex Workers.

Go here to help fund legal efforts to fully decriminalize sex work in the United States and here to listen to Keyana's full testimonial.

Three quick corrections: Maxine (not Terra) interviewed Keyana; Sextraffickingalaska.com is maintained by Community United for Safety and Protection (not just Terra); Last (and in fact least), Chris began gathering audio for this episode in October of 2015 (not September of 2015). We regret these errors.

Duration: 2 hours, 1 minute

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Episode 25: Behind the Scenes at Kink.com with Quinn Quintana

Chris explores San Francisco's historic Armory also known as the Porn Palace with kink.com tour guide Quinn Quintana. Quinn is also a comedian and the host of Hot Tub Interviews with Porn Stars. Quinn and Chris spent hours exploring kink.com sets, props, and cages.

Don't forget to check out the Vice article mentioned in this episode "Why Can You Go to Prison for Making Scat Porn?"

Duration: 1 hour, 8 minutes

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Episode 24: New York Continued

This episode features conversations that didn’t quite fit into the sex party episode but were simply too good to leave on the cutting room floor. Ames Bex makes his second appearance on the show. This time he talks about directing porn and his ongoing transition into manhood, both legally and physically. Ames also has a podcast of his own called Mister Bex Talks Sex. Photographer and Kink tour guide Efrain John Gonzalez aka Gonzobear, takes Chris through Manhattan’s Meatpacking District where he gives walking tours “that take you back to the good old days of the 80's and 90's, when the district was packed with some of the kinkiest, sleaziest and craziest bars and underground clubs in Manhattan.” We also hear from Selena Fire, Patricia Johnson, and Mark Michaels, the three co-founders of Pleasure Salon: a monthly social gathering designed to “bring together members of the BDSM, swinger, alternative gender, LGBTQ, sex-activist, porn, sex educator, nudist, sex-magic, polyamory, Pagan, radical faerie, tantra, sex-blogger, sex writer, pervert and sex-worker communities, and others whose passion is sex or sexuality” in a casual cocktail party environment. Patricia and Mark also talk about the 5 books they’ve coauthored together.

Also remember to check out this frightening Wall Street Journal article and this SNL sketch about gentrification in the Meatpacking District.

Duration: 51 minutes

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Episode 23: New York Sex Parties

Some of the parties discussed in this episode include Chemistry, Kinky Salon NYC, Myth, Spam, Hacienda, 2 House of Scorpio events: Countdown and Lip Service, Kinky Riot, Wild’s Playground, and Curvy Fling. We will also hear from Jack from Adult Socials. You can find more information about Wild’s Playground and Kinky Riot on FetLife. Both parties often take place at Pendulum Dungeon.

Don’t forget to check out the full archives of Jefferson’s blog One Life, Take Two and to listen to every episode of Billy Procida’s Manwhore Podcast. Watch the Huffpost Live video about Hacienda Villa here, and book your reservation for Hacienda Maison here. And when you’re done with all of that, remember to read Polly Superstar’s Reddit AMA.

Duration: 1 hour, 11 minutes

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Episode 22: The 2016 AVN Awards and Expo

Porn performers featured in this episode include Ron Jeremy, Farrah Abraham, Nikki Knightly, Kelly Klaymour, MaseratiXXX, Carmen Valentina, Daisy Monroe, Piper Perri, Yasmine de Leon, Tyra Scott, Sarah Jesse, Angel Deluca, Lila Lovely, Riley Reynolds, Lacey Starr, Savanah Stevens, JoJo Kiss, Zoe Parker, Katalina Mills, Farah Valentine, Heather Lexi of Erotique Entertainment, Michelle Austin the voluptuous diva behind Kennston Productions and FTM.xxx, and Chaturbate cam girl Shannon Scot.

This episode also features Bella Roxxx from Adult Star Makers as well as representatives from Wicked Pictures, Kink.com, Holodexxx, HoloGirls VR, and VR Bangers. And let’s not forget Dr. Ben Durover.

Critiques of the documentary Hot Girls Wanted can be found here, here and here. Don’t forget to also check out Chelsea Poe’s XOJane article entitled I Am A Porn Star Asking the Porn Industry To Stop Using The Term "Shemale" and the fleshbot write up of Nikki Knightly.

Duration: 1 hour, 31 minutes

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Episode 21: Sex Therapy

This episode features interviews with: Chicago-based sex therapist Michelle Herzog from the Center for Mindful Living, global sex therapist Dr. Susan Kaye from the Institute for Mindy Body Therapy, and New York/San Francisco-based sex therapist and author David Ortmann. David co-wrote the book Sexual Outsiders: Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities with Richard Sprott.

Articles discussed in this episode include “14 Women Tell What It’s Like Having Sex With A Micropenis” from Buzzfeed and “You’re 16. You’re a Pedophile. You Don’t Want to Hurt Anyone. What Do You Do Now?” by Luke Malone. You can listen to the This American Life episode inspired by Luke Malone’s article here and check out the breakdown of Sensate Focus mentioned on the show here.

Duration: 1 hour, 4 minutes

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Episode 20: Sex in Iceland

Chris travels to Iceland to chat with locals about the country’s infamous hookup culture, “end demand” prostitution policies, BDSM scene, and much more. This episode also features a couple of brief exchanges with Icelandic rapper Blaz Roca.

You can find the anti-Roosh petition mentioned on the show here.

Duration: 1 hour, 7 minutes

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Episode 19: Sex with Fetish Filmmakers

Chris chats with a variety of fetish filmmakers. He talks pegging with adult actress Candi Apple aka the Strap-On Princess, sploshing with the Pie Master and Angel Rose from sexyslapstickvideos.com, smoking fetish with Clif from USA Smokers and Don from Smoking Kittens Productions, and Shoe-play and vore with Bob a filmmaker with 8 different shoe-play stores on clips4sale.com.

Learn more about Candi Apple here. And don’t forget to checkout Strap-on Sessions and Strap-on Parties. Check out the Pie Master’s main site here. Also check out his CumFundMe and his clips4sale store. Don’t forget to check out Angel Rose’s store too. You can find Clif’s work on his USA Smokers site and on Clips4Sale. Don’s Smoking Kittens Productions sells videos exclusively through Clips4Sale. Bob’s 8 clips4sale stores are Shoeplayer, Shoeplayer Requests, Shoeplayer Stockings & Socks, Shoeplayer Abused Shoes, Shoeplayer Kelly's Toes & Soles, Shoeplayer VORE & More, Shoeplayer Long Clips, and Shoeplayer Shoes. Finally, check out the Salon article about animal crush films if you feel like reading something depressing.

Duration: 1 hour, 4 minutes

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Episode 18: Alpacas Gone Wild

In this episode we take a detour from human sexuality and dive into the sexual triumphs and tragedies of livestock. Chris visits two farms in Washington state where he encounters horny alpacas, genetically perfect pigs, and some very confused birds. Chris also chats with comedian Tamale Sepp about her former life as a champion dairy judge and horse semen scientist. Finally, Chris interviews two hu-cow erotica authors (Gemma Wolf and Narcissa Rivers) about the “human cow” fetish and the surprising economics of self-publishing erotica through Amazon.

You can view Tamale’s video from Cigars and Stripes here. As mentioned in the episode, Tamale did a few interviews following the controversy. Check out this one from Vocalo. And here’s Salon’s take on the matter. Check out the amazon pages for Gemma Wolf and Narcissa Rivers to view the many titles these literary powerhouses have provided for your enjoyment.

Duration: 54 minutes

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Episode 17: Fifty Shades of Evil

Chris travels to Clearwater, Florida to chat with couples spending Valentine’s Day at the world’s first Hooters. But this episode mainly focuses on conversations with three professional dominatrixes –Svetlannah Doll, Calista Curves, and Domina Vera Lamarr— whom Chris coaxed into seeing Fifty Shades of Grey. Master Hook, a lifestyle master, also shares some thoughts on the film. And finally, we check in with Fiona from the porn clerks episode to learn about how the Fifty Shades series has impacted her job and the sex toy industry as a whole.

Links mentioned on the show include this study, this Washington Post article, Vera's main site, and her clips site.

Duration: 1 hour, 8 minutes

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Episode 16: Professional Phone Sex

Chris chats with several phone sex performers and even sits in on a 9-hour no-taboos phone sex shift.

You can watch Desiree’s full video here. That disturbing article about German cannibals is available here. And check out three of Cathryn Berarovich’s Harlotry articles about phone sex by going here, here, and here.

Duration: 56 minutes

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Episode 15: Sex with Age-Players

From adult babies to naughty school girls. Chris explores the world of age-play, a place where consenting adults can be kids again.

Duration: 56 minutes

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Episode 14: Sex Positive Portland

Chris travels to Portland where he talks to some key figures in the city’s expansive sex positive community. Topics include polyamory, play parties, furies, Sex Positive World, the PDX Kink Calendar, the Catalyst Art and Cultural Space, and the InHerTube sex toy company. Chris also visits Casa Diablo the world’s first vegan strip club.

You can check out the Psychology Today post about furies here and see the PDX Kink Calendar here.

Duration: 1 hour, 30 minutes

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Episode 13: Sex with Mormons

Chris travels to Utah to chat with current and former LDS members about the sexual politics of the Mormon Church. Guests include everyone from a Salt Lake City escort to an anti-porn activist at Brigham Young University.

Articles mentioned include Cosmo’s piece on Keli Byers as well as her rebuttal to it. There is also the Mother Jones article “Married for a Minute” on temporary marriages within Shiite Islam.

Duration: 1 hour, 42 minutes

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Episode 12: Sex with Porn Clerks

Chris talks with one former and two current porn clerks about why sex shops continue to thrive in the Internet age.

Duration: 59 minutes

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Episode 11: Sex with Rent Boys

Chris chats with 1 former and 2 current male escorts. The former being podcaster, sex worker advocate, and writer Eric Barry. You can find Eric's show, Full Disclosure, on iTunes, Stitcher Radio and at FDpod.com. Topics discussed in this episode include fisting, scat, incest play, gay-for-pay, and Nancy Reagan.

Duration: 1 hour, 14 minutes

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Episode 10: Sex with Strippers

Chris talks with 3 Chicago strippers about cocaine, lap dances, bachelor and bachelorette parties, "extras," golden showers, stalkers and much more.

Duration: 1 hour

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Episode 9: Financial Domination

Chris explores the topic of financial domination, a fascinating virtual form of BDSM.

The links discussed in this show include the Kenyan study relating to long erections, all three of Miss Kay’s Websites, and the Salon article mentioned at the end of the show.

Duration: 56 minutes

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Episode 8: Sex, Drugs, and Equality at Chicago Pride

Chris chats with L's, G's, B's, T's, Q's, I's, A's, and some folks who are too cool for labels at the 2014 Chicago Pride Parade.

The first picture is of our naughty genie. The second is of Amazon and her pal Fabulous Freddie. And the third image features Jason the truck driver.

Duration: 48 minutes

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Episode 7: Sex in Mumbai

Chris travels to Mumbai, India where he discusses transgender issues, arranged marriages, fairness creams, and sex work with a delightful array of locals. This episode also features a conversation with feminine image consultant and founder of Nouveau She, Monica Prata.

Duration: 1 hour, 5 minutes

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Episode 6: Sex in Boomtown USA

Chris travels to Williston, North Dakota to investigate the impact of the oil boom and subsequent migration of thousands of men from around the world to this small community.

Read the full text of Conflict and Agency Among Sex Workers and Pimps here.

Duration: 1 hour, 6 minutes

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Episode 5: Adventures in Sex Work

This episode draws on conversations recorded in Tokyo, New York, New Orleans, and Chicago. Topics explored include tickle porn, traditional porn, fetish modeling, stripping, prostitution, sugar daddies, and much more. Guests include a $750-an-hour gigolo and America's favorite 62-year-old escort, Erin.

Duration: 1 hour, 17 minutes

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Episode 4: Sex at Mardi Gras

Chris travels to New Orleans during Mardi Gras to chat with party people from around the world. He also sits down with some sex workers, including a 62-year-old escort. This episode also features a conversation with sex columnist and author Stefanie Iris Weiss about her most recent book Eco-Sex: Go Green Between the Sheets and Make Your Love Life Sustainable.

Check out Stefanie’s Nerve.com article about Mardi Gras and her website. Her Sex column is also worth checking out. And go here to read the Vice article about toxic sex toys mentioned in this episode.

Duration: 52 minutes

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Episode 3: Dungeon Fetish Party

Chris attends a fetish party at Continuum Dungeon in Chicago where he interviews three professional dominatrixes and an array of attendees ranging from lifestyle kinksters to vanilla onlookers. Guests include Mistress Cleo LaVamp, Mistress Desiree Demonix, and Mistress Elena Croft. This episode also features a conversation with BDSM and kinky sex educator and blogger Tynan Fox, recorded in St Paul, MN.

Learn more about Continuum Dungeon here. Listen to the full audio of Tynan coming out as kinky to his conservative parents here. Also check out his official site. And learn more about the man behind our theme music, musician and composer Benn Jordan/The Flashbulb, here and here.

If you liked this episode I recommend listening to episode 442 of the RISK! Podcast entitled Slave.

Update: An error was made in the working definition for the term paraphilia. That error is corrected in the first few minutes of episode 4: Sex at Mardi Gras.

Duration: 1 hour

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Episode 2: Grindr in Wyoming

Chris chats with Grindr users in Wyoming, meeting some fascinating characters with surprising backstories. He also picks up quite a bit of new terminology along the way. Topics discussed include hookups, otters, creeps, money offers, religion, married guys, and much more.

Here's a link to the article about Saudi Arabia's gay cruising scene mentioned in this episode. It's from 2007, but the climate described here does not appear to have changed much in the past 7 years.

Duration: 1 hour, 10 minutes

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Episode 1: Sex in Tokyo

Chris travels to Tokyo to explore Japanese sex culture. Topics discussed include host and hostess clubs, happening bars, Japanese rope bondage, love hotels, maid cafes, train groping, Western media attention, and much more.

Duration: 1 hour, 27 minutes

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